Marriage , Mirage or Misconception

Friends. Lovers. Marriage. Family and lovers. Partners, sometimes lovers. Roommates. Vacations together as lovers. Partners or just each other’s plus one. Permanent roommates and sometimes friends.

This seems like the timeline of a marriage. How delusional we beings are to think that living in bliss with each other lasts.

Honestly it can work if both are willing to grow with each other because the end game is staying together. But the magic word here is WORK.

Both, not only one must work. Marriage is a partnership, this is what I thought, not a singleship, it takes two.

Because the end result will be the one working on their own, will outgrow the other, then be gone.

Thought: Maybe the word should not be Marriage but

Mirage.

-Issa

-Painting by Issa

This Launched my mind into deep Thought

This is something I read and wanted to share:

Our Quest to Build the Ideal Self

When we begin our spiritual journeys  of inner growth, we discover many things about ourselves, other people and the world.

We uncover the lies we tell ourselves and others, the lies the world tells us, we work on exploring our personalities, we work on improving our personalities, we heal our wounds, we try to make peace with ourselves, we try to make amends with others … and many more things that go hand-in-hand with the cultivation of self-awareness, self-discovery, self-understanding and self-transformation. These are all very useful practices.

Eventually, we develop a pretty good understanding of ourselves – of our flaws and strengths, of our core wounds and shadow elements and of our true dreams and gifts. We nourish our bodies, change our diets, create healthy personal boundaries, cut away toxic habits, say goodbye to destructive people, build new friendships and relationships, and eventually develop love and respect for who we think we are. This is all imperative.

And yet … we always feel as though something is missing in our lives.

We still work to pursue creating an “ideal self,” that always feels happy, that never suffers and that is constantly at peace. We still work to build and enhance our identities, whether through identifying as vegans, as yogis, as empaths, as intuitives, as Buddhists, as healers, as spiritual students or teachers, as Old Souls, as shamans, as eco warriors, and as any of the other hundreds of identity labels we love to collect and embody.

And yet … we are never happy. We always seek more – we always seek to “be” more. Our quest is never-ending. We think that we can “defeat” the mind by using the mind … but have you ever questioned the validity of this? Have you ever asked yourself the following question:

“Will I ever be enough?”

Will You Really Ever “Be Enough”?

The question may seem absurd: “Of course I am enough!” you might think as I once did. “I am a smart, attractive, intelligent, kind and loving person – of course I am enough!”

Yes, yes you are. And to achieve this kind of self-respect is an important part of the growth process away from self-hatred to self-love.

But there comes a time after you have cultivated self-love and self-respect where you come to realize something miraculous:

You will never be enough because who you “think” you are is not truly “who” you are.

All of the memories, all of the beliefs, all of the associations, all of the spiritual and worldly labels, all of the tastes, all of the traumas, all of the loves and hates, all of the insecurities and strengths, they are not truly “who” you are.

And no matter how highly you regard yourself, no matter how popular, liked, celebrated, or lovable you are – your identity remains as a burden; a barrier that prevents you from the purest self-realization which is that you are an expression of Oneness. Your true nature has no name, no form, no identity, no limits. You are everything and nothing at the same time.

https://onedailyprompt.wordpress.com/2023/11/05/your-daily-word-prompt-Launch-ydwordprompt-November-5-2023/

Do I really love myself?

Why is self acceptance and self love so hard for us humans? 

Why do we love ourselves more if another human finds us worthy? 

Why do we punish ourselves by eating food not good for us and drinking alcohol that is

poison for our bodies?

Why can’t we give the love to ourselves, that we think others should

give to us?

Why do we lie to ourselves?

Why aren’t we devoted to ourselves?

We should be.

Issa

Detonate

I feel like I am going to explode!!!

My whole body is vibrating, my stomach is churning, I never thought that leading up to going to say goodbye to my mother would feel like this. The fact I live in another country and the travel I must do to get to her is making me shake all over. 1. Bus for 6 hours then the 4 hour wait for my flight, then the 11 hour flight. Just thinking about it and all these hours of emotion building up inside is making me nauseous.

Calm …… Calm down this Monkey Brain of mine PLEASE.

Our nuclear family is small, mother, sister, daughter & nice. That is it and I am the “Strong One” the one with the heart of stone. But this is not true because I feel like a puddle right now and I need a hug or to feel strength from someone else right now. Will I make it? So that I can be strong for these 4 women in my family?

I am so thankful for this Blog that I can write it out my feeling, it does help.

Issa 2023

How passionate are U?

Some of us are extremely passionate about everything and are loud about it. Some of us seem to have no passion about anything because we are so quite. Some of us have passion that comes and goes, because we are so easily distracted. 

We are all passionate but the world has different names for us, extroverts, introverts or fickle.

*Some quick information: Today in our world, year 2020 we were hit with COVID. Many do not know that COVID hits us in a secret place in our bodies that no one talks about. It depletes us of our beautiful happy hormone( Serotonin) keeps it at bay for many months after. Science has found that without treatment many of us humans. Find ourselves in a depressed state, with the blahs or just a lack of passion in our lives for anything.

So, how passionate are you today? In hospitals here in Italy, they give serotonin pills to nurses and doctors. This is for those who have had COVID to snap out of the blahs. Therapists and psychologists are prescribing it left and right. It is a 5-day treatment, I have been told.

Go for a walk in nature. Start watching silly comedies and laugh. Eat your protein and dark leafy veggies. Or just hang out with your favorite person. These are a few of my suggestions.

If you feel stressed or are lacking passion take responsibility for your body, mind & soul. Give yourself a little fun to jump start your happy hormone again and have a wonderful life.