Marriage , Mirage or Misconception

Friends. Lovers. Marriage. Family and lovers. Partners, sometimes lovers. Roommates. Vacations together as lovers. Partners or just each other’s plus one. Permanent roommates and sometimes friends.

This seems like the timeline of a marriage. How delusional we beings are to think that living in bliss with each other lasts.

Honestly it can work if both are willing to grow with each other because the end game is staying together. But the magic word here is WORK.

Both, not only one must work. Marriage is a partnership, this is what I thought, not a singleship, it takes two.

Because the end result will be the one working on their own, will outgrow the other, then be gone.

Thought: Maybe the word should not be Marriage but

Mirage.

-Issa

-Painting by Issa

On/Off Switch?

When a child grows up with, conditional love. 

Unfortunately, (unknown to the child) to have a healthy relationship, they will have to learn unconditional love.

What does this mean for the child, that is now an adult?

It means that they love fast and deeply, because it is an immensely beautiful feeling, of course.

THE CATCH: 

The child never learns how to truly love, but only to mirror it. Thus an invisible on/off switch was developed within them.

As long as someone loves them, the adult/child will mirror love shown to them. 

*The minute someone does not show love anymore towards them.

An invisible switch is turned off (unknown to the adult/child). This makes it easy for the adult/child to walk away. And never look back, thinking that they simply fell out of love.

or 

The love time, has expired.

  • There are many reasons for this to happen. For example: A person must refocus their attention on family members, job, and health. They also need to handle any number of life events that need attention. But the adult/child doesn’t understand.

-Issa

Painting by Neith Nevelson

The Human Nautilus

The study of nature’s grace, in growth, expansion, and renewal. The never ending, cycle of life and our behavior.

We are born & grow: 1 to 5 years

We learn: 6 to 11 yrs

We act out: 12 to 17 yrs

We experiment: 18 to 22

We stand alone: 23 to 29


We realize that not always 2+2 = 4, it  varies: 30 to 40

We realize, reflect and get confused: 40 to 50

We understand everything and know nothing, but start to realize that what has influenced us from 1 to 17 has formed our behaviors of today and we can start to heal: 50 to 60

We become calmer and accept: 60 to 70

We hopefully become peaceful: 70 to death.

Not all of us do, understand that our behavior, is a never-ending cycle in our life.  From ages 1 to 5, what we see, taste, hear, and feel lays the foundation.  This foundation builds our behavior pattern for the rest of our lives. By the time we are halfway through our life cycle, many of us need to revisit our past.  We try to fix, understand, accept or come to terms with our life.  Doing this ,helps us spend the rest of our years, as 

quality time. We can go out with peace.

Issa

This Launched my mind into deep Thought

This is something I read and wanted to share:

Our Quest to Build the Ideal Self

When we begin our spiritual journeys  of inner growth, we discover many things about ourselves, other people and the world.

We uncover the lies we tell ourselves and others, the lies the world tells us, we work on exploring our personalities, we work on improving our personalities, we heal our wounds, we try to make peace with ourselves, we try to make amends with others … and many more things that go hand-in-hand with the cultivation of self-awareness, self-discovery, self-understanding and self-transformation. These are all very useful practices.

Eventually, we develop a pretty good understanding of ourselves – of our flaws and strengths, of our core wounds and shadow elements and of our true dreams and gifts. We nourish our bodies, change our diets, create healthy personal boundaries, cut away toxic habits, say goodbye to destructive people, build new friendships and relationships, and eventually develop love and respect for who we think we are. This is all imperative.

And yet … we always feel as though something is missing in our lives.

We still work to pursue creating an “ideal self,” that always feels happy, that never suffers and that is constantly at peace. We still work to build and enhance our identities, whether through identifying as vegans, as yogis, as empaths, as intuitives, as Buddhists, as healers, as spiritual students or teachers, as Old Souls, as shamans, as eco warriors, and as any of the other hundreds of identity labels we love to collect and embody.

And yet … we are never happy. We always seek more – we always seek to “be” more. Our quest is never-ending. We think that we can “defeat” the mind by using the mind … but have you ever questioned the validity of this? Have you ever asked yourself the following question:

“Will I ever be enough?”

Will You Really Ever “Be Enough”?

The question may seem absurd: “Of course I am enough!” you might think as I once did. “I am a smart, attractive, intelligent, kind and loving person – of course I am enough!”

Yes, yes you are. And to achieve this kind of self-respect is an important part of the growth process away from self-hatred to self-love.

But there comes a time after you have cultivated self-love and self-respect where you come to realize something miraculous:

You will never be enough because who you “think” you are is not truly “who” you are.

All of the memories, all of the beliefs, all of the associations, all of the spiritual and worldly labels, all of the tastes, all of the traumas, all of the loves and hates, all of the insecurities and strengths, they are not truly “who” you are.

And no matter how highly you regard yourself, no matter how popular, liked, celebrated, or lovable you are – your identity remains as a burden; a barrier that prevents you from the purest self-realization which is that you are an expression of Oneness. Your true nature has no name, no form, no identity, no limits. You are everything and nothing at the same time.

https://onedailyprompt.wordpress.com/2023/11/05/your-daily-word-prompt-Launch-ydwordprompt-November-5-2023/

Down

Losing a parent is so strange because they are like your own, personal God.

They created you, these 2 people.

No matter what your relationship is with them.

Knowing they are not on this Earthly plain anymore, it feels very different.

I feel like I lost a piece of my own religion.

-Issa June 2023